Monday, November 13, 2017

The Map of Me

For my map, I drew a heart. The heart had some cracks in it from the wear and tear of life. When I think of a map, the first map that comes to my mind is the map of the United States. So, the heart I drew was also sectioned off into different sized "states". The different sizes represented the different areas of my life and how much impact they've had on me.

One of the biggest "states" was God. I chose God, because he has played a major part in my life, when everything around me seemed to be crumbling down, my relationship with Jesus never suffered. The next biggest "state" was family. Family is really the only people I know I can count on. There have been ups and downs in my relationship with family, and there is some family I don't even talk to anymore. However, there is also family members that stuck with me through everything. They're the people I would trust with my life.

The abandonment "state" is the same size as my family "state".  I have an abandonment "state", because there have been so many people just up and leave, and I feel like that has had a major effect on how I act and how I am as a person today. Some of those people have been family members, some close friends, and some people I was in a relationship with.

The two next biggest "states" were my relationships and friends "states". When I feel like I can't go to my family these are the "states" I visit. These two states have many cracks in them. The cracks in these two "states" really represent the heartbreaks that go along with them and how life has affected them.

My Mr. Chubs "state" is very close in size to my friendship and relationship "states".  Mr. Chubs is my giant teddy bear. He is one of my biggest supporters and he is always there to listen. I know it sounds weird that I'm 16 and still rely on my teddy bear, but he has honestly been the one thing I know I can always go to. I know that he'll always be there, and honestly I need that kind of stability in my life. There are many other "states" along with these other "states". These are the "states" that have had the most impact in my life.

Monday, September 18, 2017

Way of Knowing Reflection

Have you ever worked in a group before? Group projects are usually stressful right? Typically, one or two of the people do all the work and the other members of the group just take the credit. Group projects always frustrate me, because I work better alone. When I work alone, I don't have to worry about people getting undeserved credit for things I did.

However, I'm glad this group project wasn't like that. It wasn't stressful at all. I enjoyed working with my group. Everyone pulled their own weight and did their part. Everyone actually did more than they had to. We had enough information to run over our time into the next class period. Our presentation was really good too. It wasn't one of those projects that have irrelevant and repetitive information. I thought it was intriguing and conversation worthy.

Seeing everyone in the group bring information to the table and the rest of the group helping make that information better was great. Not once did anybody just disregard someone's idea. They took the ideas of others and worked with them to help elaborate and make every idea better.

The communication skills were great too. There was never a problem of not communicating. We, of course, all had our own little section of the presentation we focused on. However, that never stopped anyone from asking for help or opinions on an idea. Another thing I really liked was nobody added to the presentation without consulting with the group first.

If every group project could run as smoothly as this one, group projects wouldn't be near as bad. I wouldn't mind working with other people on projects. I would know that every person earned the grade they get in the project. I thoroughly enjoyed working with the group and seeing how a group project process should be.

Sunday, August 27, 2017

I believe

I believe everything in your life happens for a reason. My Nana always says "we are who we are, and that's who we are." It's weird to think about things this way. Are we born the same person we are now? Every situation happens for a reason. A lot of times when something happens that we don't like we think "why would this ever happen to me?". The truth is we wouldn't be who we are now without all the things that have happened in our lives.

If even the slightest difference was made in our lives, would we be the same person? Of course not! We wouldn't have the experiences that we have now. Therefore we wouldn't have the same knowledge. We wouldn't know to stay away from certain situations. We wouldn't know to trust or not trust certain people.

A lot of times we make decisions based on previous decisions. Without those same experiences we might not make the same decisions. You might say "well duh everyone knows that." However, our personalities and morals are also linked to our experiences. How can that be though? Think about it.

If we were born into a different family, our parents could have taught us completely different things. Therefore, we would have different morals. Those same morals would affect our decisions that we make from there on out. That's crazy to think about right? Even the things we can't help, like what family we are born into, effect every decision we make.

Our personality makes us who we are, right? Would we have the same personalities without everything that has happened in our lives? I don't believe so. If we never experienced a broken heart or a failure. We would trust everybody and always see the good in everything. However, most of the time we have seen bad in our lives, at least once. That's why we get scared in certain situations and feel anxious about certain things. Everything happens for a reason and that reason is to make us who we are.

Sunday, October 9, 2016


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If that picture doesn't make you laugh, I don't know what will. Laughing is so important. Everyone laughs at least once in their life. Even the most grumpy person you know laughs every now and then. Believe it or not, humans are not the only ones that can laugh. Animals can laugh too. Even a rat can laugh. That's crazy !

Is Laughing Attractive?

The answer is yes! When presented with the question "What qualities are attractive to you?", most of the responses are physical features. However, the one response that isn't a physical feature is laughter. People find a sense of humor attractive. Personally one of the major things I look for in a guy is "Can they make me laugh?" The truth is nobody wants to be with someone who is boring and never laughs.  Laughing also helps your relationship. Statistically couples that laugh and smile more stay together longer. Who doesn't want a nice healthy relationship?

Laughing = Better Health

Is it true laughing is healthy? Of course laughing is healthy! Laughing can actually help improve your health. Laughing can help relieve the stress of a hard day. Laughing can even help burn calories. It can help burn calories by raising both your energy expenditure and heart rate by about 10% - 20%. What this means is for every 10-15 minutes you laugh you could potentially burn up to 10-40 calories. Isn't that helpful? Another fun fact is every day that you genuinely laugh you add 10 seconds onto your life. However, you can't force yourself to laugh everyday. It needs to be a real laugh. You could potentially add about 8 years to your life!


Can your brain tell the difference in a forced laugh and a genuine laugh? It can. Some people think if they just force a laugh their brain will still see it as a genuine laugh and eventually it will become easy to laugh ay anything. However this is not true. Your brain knows exactly when you force yourself to laugh and when you don't. Forcing yourself to laugh is actually bad for your mental health. It is much better for you to find a way to really genuinely laugh each and everyday. A good way to laugh is to find a good friend who can make you laugh even when you're having the worst of the worst days.


My challenge to you is make someone laugh at least once a day. We tend to laugh more around people we know and are comfortable around. So you may have to take time to get to know someone before you can get them to laugh. It's totally worth the time though. Who wouldn't want to make someone's day a little brighter? You never know what people are going through and that one laugh can make a huge difference in someone's day or even week.

Saturday, September 24, 2016

Gordon A. Eadie

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Have you Ever?

What's your favorite quote? Have you ever heard the quote "If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything."- Gordon A. Eadie? It's probably one of my favorite quotes.  I love this quote, because it's so true.

What Does this Quote Mean?

If you don't stand for anything and don't show people that you believe in certain things or have certain boundaries, they'll get you to do anything. They will take complete advantage of you. Also you'll never say no to anything. When you say no to something, you're standing for something. Have you ever met a person who doesn't stand for anything and never says no to anything someone asks them to do? I haven't either. That's because most people stand for something.

Today's Society

In today's society we often have a tendency to speak out for what we believe in. This is not a bad thing..... at all. By speaking out for what we believe in, we're letting people know where we stand on certain subjects. We're standing for something, so we don't fall for anything.
Common excuses people use for not speaking their mind are "I don't want to be rude", "What will people think of me if I say this", and "I'm a shy person".
Who cares what other people think? Be yourself. Take a stand for something. Don't be that person who lets other people run all over them. I promise you it's no fun to be a doormat.

If Not...

If you don't stand for the things you believe in or the boundaries you set, you will end up regretting things you do. You'll look back and think "Why would I do that?". People will talk you into doing whatever they want you to do.
Some people don't have your best interest at heart and you need to tell them no. You know what's best for you so you should go with what you believe is right, not what other people think is right.
When it comes to what you believe in, there is no wrong answer.
If someone tells you you're wrong about something you believe in, they're wrong. Nobody can tell you what to believe.

Don't be a Follower

Don't be that person who cares so much about what others think that you just follow what other people tell you is right.
Do not be a follower. Be a leader!
Everyone is born a leader and remains a leader until they decide they are not good enough to think for themselves. Everyone is good enough to be a leader. Be your own person. I promise you it's a lot more fun to be yourself than it is to pretend you're something you're not. Pretending you're something you're not is a lot harder than being  a leader and standing up for what you believe is right.

Sunday, September 11, 2016



What Are Goals ?

Most of the time when we think of goals we think of long term goals. However, you can have short term goals and even daily goals. Daily goals are something you want to achieve on a day to day basis. Short term goals are something you want to achieve in a short time span, such as a week or month. Long terms goals are something you want to achieve over an extended time frame. One type of goal is not more important than the other.

Are Goals Important?

It's very important that we set goals. When we set goals, it makes us want to work and put forth the effort to reach those goals. If we didn't have goals to motivate us to achieve the things we want in life, we would never get anything done. We wouldn't have a reason to get anything done.

Even if you don't know what you want to achieve a year from now, you can still set goals. A daily goal is an excellent way to insure you are on track. A daily goal I have is to make someone laugh at least once a day. A goal does not have to be some big complicated thing. It can be, but it doesn't have to be.

How Do I Set a Goal?

A goal is really easy to set. A great way to set a goal is to ask yourself "What is something I would like to see myself doing?" The answer to this question is your goal. Sometimes it's easier to ask yourself "What is something I want to achieve on a daily basis? In a month? in a year?"

Remember a goal does not have to be a super complicated thing. A goal can be anything you want to see yourself accomplish. If you don't accomplish your goal when you planned to, keep trying. Don't give up. When you accomplish one goal, set another! Keep pushing yourself to be the best and most successful you, you can be!

Zig Ziglar once said "What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals." I love this quote. This quote helps you realize that it's not about what big reward you get from doing something, it's about how you grow as a person from doing it. When you set your goals don't set them based on the mindset of " What reward will I get out of it if I do this?" Set goals to help you become a better you. Set goals to help you become a better person.

Sunday, August 28, 2016

What is Beauty?

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What Is Beauty?

We live in a society where we base opinions on appearances. Many of our first thoughts about somebody is "Wow, they're really pretty!" or "Look at that person, they're so ugly." However, everyone has a different definition of beauty. You may think somebody is the most beautiful person in the world and you friend may think they're the ugliest person in the world.

What about the Inside?

Beauty is not only skin deep. Typically we associate being beautiful with only physical appearance. Some people can be beautiful on the outside but ugly on the inside. What I mean by this is they can have a great physical complexion but an ugly personality. To me, having a beautiful personality is far more important that looking good. However, to some people looking good is more important than having a good personality.Everyone has a different definition of beautiful.

You are Beautiful.

Everyone is beautiful in their own way. You are beautiful. There is somebody that believes you are beautiful.
You matter. To someone you are the most beautiful person in the world and nobody compares to you. If you don't think you're beautiful, you're wrong.
It's important to surround yourself with people that see you're beauty. If you surround yourself with people that are always putting you down and telling you how ugly and terrible you are, you're obviously not going to believe you're beautiful. Believe you are beautiful, because you are. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise.
Don't try to change yourself for somebody else. Be you. You are unique and beautiful the way you are!


I have a challenge for you. My challenge is simple.
If you're the person that always puts people down, be nicer. Compliment someone everyday. I promise you complimenting someone everyday will make you feel so much better than putting people down. Just a simple "You look nice today." can make somebody's day. You never know what people are going through. By doing this, you might can save someone from doing something they'll regret. Why not try to brighten somebody's day?
If you're the person who wakes up every morning and looks in the mirror then thinks "I wish I were prettier", my challenge for you is to find something you like about yourself everyday. Instead of focusing on the things you don't like, focus on the things you do like. Find something different everyday. By doing this challenge, I hope you'll eventually look in the mirror and think "I am beautiful."